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The Other Side Of The Bed - Part 1

Ever wonder what she’s thinking and feeling during sex? Here’s what she hasn’t told you about how you can maximise her pleasure, and yours.

Phase 1: Getting In The Mood

Making love is an emotional event for a woman. If she’s feeling bloated, fat or unattractive, sex may not be on her radar screen. But there are a few things you can help her in order to put her in the mood for love.

Option 1 - Concentrate as hard on the friendship part of your relationship as you do on the physical part. If you’re intimate in conversation, you can bet she’ll be intimate in bed.
Option 2 - Constantly tell her that she’s sexy. Compliment her. Give her a lustful look. Get her to buy the idea that she’s lust-worthy. She’ll definitely aim to prove it to you!

Phase 2: Initial Arousal

Attraction has turned into action. What’s she experiencing now? Probably a strong desire to be kissed. For starters, a well-timed, well-executed lip lock helps give a woman the emotional closeness she’s looking for. Equally important, a woman’s lips, tongue and mouth are simply some of the most erogenous parts of her body. Stimulating them properly can actually arouse her down below.

But what’s the right way to kiss her? First of all, take your time. If you pay attention to kissing well instead of rushing passionately on, you’ll be at second base before you know it. Vary the pressure, the duration, the location, and keep busy. Hands are important. Women loves men grabbing their necks, hair and behind. Body-press kissing gets them turned on.

You may be focusing on her lips, but it’s only a matter of moments before her whole body will react. Her breathing, heart rate and blood pressure will begin to increase, her nipples will become erect and her aureole will swell. Within 15 to 20 seconds of arousal, her vagina will start to moisten.

Sexy Touch The sensitivity of a woman’s entire body is tough to overemphasise. While the key to your sexual pleasure lies between your legs, women are less focused on the genitals and more aware of other parts of their bodies.

So start exploring. Find a brave new world. If you’ve already hit the usual erogenous zones, invent some new ones. The unsuspected sensation is what you’re after here, and you just might ambush her into orgasm.

One warning at this stage: while it’s true that direct stimulation of the clitoris is the key to most women’s climaxing, don’t pounce too quickly. As a woman becomes more and more aroused, the clitoris will swell, producing a sort of erection. But her erection takes longer than yours does to develop , and any direct contact before that point can be painful.